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Tuesday, June 20, 2006

Female Ejaculation: It's Time For The Truth!

By Dr Irene Cooper

I hear you ask, ‘Female ejaculation? What’s ‘female ejaculation’? They never taught me anything about female ejaculation at school.’

Even if you received some sex education in school it’s a certainty that you were never told about female ejaculation!

If your experience of formal sex education was anything like mine, then you probably found out later that a lot of the more basic information was missing, never mind something as controversial as this!

Were you like the girls in my class? We were told about the male and female reproductive organs and how a fertilised egg grows into a baby. It was with some reluctance and embarrassment that the teacher told us that men produced sperm - but didn't say how. Sexual intercourse itself wasn’t explained or described and just how the sperm got to the egg was left to our imagination.

Male ejaculation wasn’t described. There was nothing about the pleasure that men and women felt during sex; nothing about the increased arousal culminating in the rhythmic pumping of semen into the vagina during the male orgasm. (The word orgasm was never used.) None of us, probably including the teacher, had any idea that there was such a thing as a female orgasm so, naturally, that didn’t get a mention. I spent years believing that women put up with having sex just to have children and to keep their lustful husbands satisfied. Having sex was just part of a woman’s wifely duties along with doing the washing and the cooking. (We are talking about a lot of years ago!) There was no clue to be found anywhere that women could actually enjoy it.

If none of us were even taught about the female orgasm it’s not surprising that we still know absolutely nothing at all about the possibility of female ejaculation. Most adults have never heard of female ejaculation and most of those who have don’t believe it really happens.

So what's the truth about female ejaculation?
There’s a whole load of total nonsense talked about it (mainly by people who are trying to sell you something) and separating the facts from the fiction we’re bombarded with from the porn peddlers isn’t easy.

First of all, we’re not talking about pints of liquid being squirted out. Don’t confuse this with the ‘party trick’ stuff you can see in pornographic (squirting) movies.

Female ejaculate (when there is any at all) isn’t naturally propelled with great pressure, as is the case with semen.

In the same way that a female orgasm isn’t necessary every time you have sex, there’s nothing wrong with you if you’ve never experienced a so-called female ejaculation. There's no great mystery to it. Any woman can produce the same effect providing she doesn't mind making her partner and the bed they're lying on very wet.

It has nothing to do with your ability to conceive or to enjoy sex.

The reason only a small percentage of women have experienced it is that most of us have been brought up to be reluctant about relaxing control of our bladder anywhere other than in the bathroom...and, yes, 95% of any fluid released when a woman reaches her orgasm comes from her bladder.

Female ejaculation comes from the urethra not the vagina.
If we discount the vaginal lubrication that commonly occurs during sexual arousal, the vast majority of any liquid that’s produced during the female orgasm is produced in the bladder and expelled through the urethra. Immediately, that makes it sound as if we’re simply talking about women losing control and urinating at the moment of orgasm. However, scientific tests conducted by Dr. Gary Schubeck Ed. D. A.C.S. have shown that this fluid is not altogether urine. Levels of urea and creatinene in the ejaculate of the women in the test were much lower than in the samples taken from their urine before the tests began.

Besides the ‘de-urinated’ fluid that comes from the bladder, some women can sometimes produce a small amount of milky discharge from the Skenes glands. These glands are the female equivalent of the prostate gland in men and with continued stimulation they may produce a fluid that can come out through the urethra during a woman's orgasm.

The Skenes glands were named after the physician who first described them, Alexander Skene, and are also known as the paraurethral glands. They’re found on the upper wall of the vagina in the area known as the G-spot. This whole general area is known as the urethral sponge and stimulation causes it to swell with blood in the same way that a penis becomes erect. Because these glands drain into the urethra there is a similarity here with the way that men urinate and ejaculate through the same opening.

Most of us would be mortified at 'having an accident' in public. Losing bodily fluids in an uncontrolled way is what elderly, incontinent people do; it's definitely not what we do. So, when in the past, women have lost control of their bladder during sexual intercourse it's been acutely embarrassing for them - and for their unsuspecting partners too!

For those of you who want to experiment, my advice is that you first find out what it feels like on your own; preferably in the bath. Empty your bladder before you start. The new fluid that's generated in your bladder during sexual arousal should be released as you reach your orgasm. Remember that most women either haven't ever tried this or have found it doesn't work for them, so don't expect too much. If you find that you experience a pleasurable result you may want to let your sexual partners know about it. Don't be surprised, however, if they aren't too excited about your love-making being a lot wetter than it normally is. Be aware that it could prove to be a massive sexual turn-off for both of you.

Irene Cooper is the author of My Female Orgasm

24 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Is there any harm in f.e. during pregnancy? Also, I didn't realize this was possible until a boyfriend of mine insisted that I not do anything but lay back and enjoy what he was doing to me. Wow, what a wonderful experience and even though f.e. may have some of the same characteristics of urine... the experience feels nothing like urinating. When it comes it's powerful and something I hope I don't have to give up for 9 months. I look forward to your reply.

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8:30 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am deeply concerned that this woman teaches that female ejaculate comes from the urethra, this kind of mis- information is damaging and grossly inaccurate. Please seek other sources for information, the process is entirely different to urination.

8:23 PM  
Anonymous Tallulah Sulis said...

Female Ejaculation does in fact come from the urethra. She was not misinformed by any means although I do not like how the article concludes with the statement that female ejaculation could be a massive turn-off. I think the more permission women and their partner give themselves to learn about this subject and release judgement, shame and fear, the more liberated and turned-on women and their partners can be. I teach workshops around the country and have dedicated the last several years to this subject. Lets stop associating it with urine, get the facts, and empower men and women to embrace this as a potential sexual experience and turn-on!

9:17 PM  
Anonymous florence said...

It comes from inside the vagina. The tissues became swollen with fluid and seeped or gushed out through the vagina wall. This is not impossible. Think osmosis.

At the third time I experienced "gushing", I tried to release the urge to pee and that came from the urethra and smelt of urine. Both me and my husband felt the difference. It's the fluid that came from the vagina, clear and with a musky smell that is the fulfilling fluid for both of us.

There is an article on this based on oriental taoist theory. I forgot the title but you can google "female ejaculation taoist" and the article may come up. If I can find the title and author, I'll come back to post it here.

4:36 PM  
Anonymous florence said...

The Art Of Female Ejaculation by Dr Saida Desilets

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10:25 AM  
Blogger AshNiki said...

Im seven months pregnant and I havent been able to ejaculate as well as I used to. Its something my husband and I really enjoy. Is there anyone that has had this problem as well? will it go back to normal after the baby is born?

12:19 AM  
Anonymous Allie said...

I have experienced f.e. quite a few times since becoming pregnant, and at first it took me off guard. Because of the pregnancy I am losing control of my bladder, and at first I thought that I was peeing, until I read up on it. I also noticed last night when making love to my husband after reaching orgasm that I must have ejaculated because everything was very WET. It is not sticky like vaginal excretions, but rather wet like water. It is very different.

1:20 AM  
Blogger Elizabeth Gutierrez said...

Before getting pregnant I had awesome f.e. But i am a little over 4 months and i haven't been able to have a wet f.e. and my husband is kinda wondering if it would be back to normal once the baby is born.

9:58 AM  
Blogger MzMallory said...

I am trying to get pregnant...so hopefully some of you that are pregnant can answer this for me! My husband like to make me "squirt" before we actually have sex. I am trying to figure out if this will stop me from being able to get pregnant, since I am not exactly sure where it comes from...I didn't want to be squirting the egg out in the process. I apologize if this is TMI I am just trying to figure this out.

2:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

In regards to the end of the article that this could very well be a turn off for both partners, that is only because of the misinformation out there that leads to embarrassment rather than embracing feel good sexuality with your lover. On this note I agree with Tallulah, and would beg people to stop perpetuating the disillusionments associated with sex as with the example in the article of sexual education. These lead to many women unable to have the sexual experience nature has endowed them to have since their emotions strip them of embracing the feeling of sensuality in sex. In regards to MzMallory, this is an educated assumption but I think it's right. The egg is in the uterus as you know, the squirt certainly does not come from there. Whether it comes from the urethra or deeper inside where the urethral sponge is, it's not likely to wash out the egg since the uterus is shut with exception to the channel sperm would have to traverse with great effort (keep in mind they have a tail to propel them) while at the same time the egg is much larger than sperm and that without a propeller.

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

No this will not reduce your chances of getting pregnant but I wouldn't recommend it after your husband ejaculation try tilting your pelvis also

9:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This is total BS!! I can squirt about 2 mtrs and mine comes out of the vagina! Its not wee..its a tonn of clear fluid and i can do it up to 10 times each session! Besides actually knowing my body and feeling where it comes from..my partner has seen it come out and a few times a bit of wee has come.out at the same time..you can smell wee! This writer obviously has never experienced this and should not write about it!

10:03 AM  
Blogger Victoria Cooley said...

^^^^^ To the anonymous above me, I totally agree with you! I was not impressed with this article and like you said this woman has clearly never squirted, because if she has ever experienced it she would know what a turn on it is for both partners. I am almost 8 weeks pregnant and found this while trying to research if it is "safe" to do while pregnant, her article was not helpful in that regard. As far as not being able to f.e. (female ejaculate as everyone seems to be calling it) we did it the night that we found out and I had zero problems "releasing". perhaps as i get further along it my be harder to do, only time will tell. I use to be afraid that I was a "squirter" and it is because of articles like this! I no longer am and embrace this incredible experience.

4:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Completely agree with the above two women, this article is inaccurate and just shames squirters. I found this whilst googling whether squirting can ruin chances of conceiving. I can also squirt multiple times and forcefully; the force of the ejaculate has even pushed my boyfriends penis out of my vagina during sex, not to mention hitting us both in the face. Articles like this made me embarrassed about squirting too, and reluctant to enjoy sex in case partners viewed it with disgust because of articles like this. Squirting isnt just a phenomenon seen in porn.

7:34 PM  
Blogger tj Crump said...

What did you find out about squirting and conceiving? I think I'm squirting my husbands sperm out because I squirt a lot too. Definitely think her article sucks and she's trying to explain something she has clearly never experienced.

4:17 PM  
Blogger tj Crump said...

What did you find out about squirting and conceiving? I think I'm squirting my husbands sperm out because I squirt a lot too. Definitely think her article sucks and she's trying to explain something she has clearly never experienced.

4:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Agreed, the stuff in porno's is real, squirt is not pee, it makes sex 1000 better, no one is turned off by it but gay men :). Why write an article about squirting if you can't do it? You sound like a prude.

4:21 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I agree! It is quite the opposite of a "turn off" as well! Makes a man feel like he is doing a good job, and the woman feel amazing! Poor woman could only wish for the orgasam we experience!

4:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My husband loved the fact that I squirt loads, its actually a big turn on for both of us, though it is tiring cleaning up after! I also thought the article viewed female ejaculation as off putting but it really isn't!

7:03 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Plus I usually need to pee after so it definitely is not urine!

7:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i fingered my girlfriend. later i tried to insert my pennis to her pussy but it didnot get inserted and later i havenot tried that. But my problem is that after sometime i observed her pussy then some sticky white liquid is there inside. So what is that liquid? i am sure that i didnot ejaculate any sperm inside her. And is that liquid inside her pussy leads to pregnancy?

12:32 PM  

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